《亲爱的她们》：“后青春时代”也可以活得精彩

　　《亲爱的她们》聚焦都市老年人生活。

　　《亲爱的她们》：父母祝福孩子的选择。

　　近日，会聚了宋丹丹、秦汉、刘莉莉、朱茵等一帮老戏骨的湖南卫视热播剧《亲爱的她们》登顶收视榜，该剧围绕一群都市老年人展开，讲述他们“鸡零狗碎”的生活状态。但是，与一般电视剧不同，《亲爱的她们》所展现的是一种沟通和生活的新理念：谁也阻挡不了岁月，但在这个后青春时代，“我们会有尊严地幸福地走下去”。

　　中年危机？可能需要一个这样的闺蜜团

　　近日，网络上流传着这么一些话题：90后感慨自己已经老了、“中年少女”成为网络热词，男性女性都谈“油腻”色变……在这些网络话题中，其实都隐含了大家对“变老”这件事的恐惧、对中年危机的抗拒。其实，“老”并没有大家想象中的可怕。《亲爱的她们》里，中年父母一辈用现代、时尚、明快的表达方式，传递出一种生活新理念。

　　《亲爱的她们》中，马卫华（宋丹丹饰）、颜舜华（朱茵饰）、石慧贞（刘莉莉饰）……她们面临着所有老年人都不可避免的问题：身体机能的逐渐老化。体力不够了，反应迟钝了，临机处理问题的能力也越来越差。此时，女性之间的友谊成为化解她们中年危机并解决与子女矛盾的利器。这些从小一起长大、相伴了半生的闺蜜们，有不输爱情的高甜友情：“就算我们不住在一起，但我们之间的情分并不会减少一分。我的电话24小时为你开机，想找我，我随时在。”

　　有观众认为，现在网络上常常讲到“塑料姐妹情”，其实大家内心所渴望的闺蜜情，就应该是卫华、舜华她们的感情，“闺蜜应该经得起岁月的洗礼，半生利益纠葛过去的考验，这种感情太珍贵。就好像卫华去接舜华时，说‘我们和她比她儿子还要亲’。看到这样的画面总会觉得有点心酸又很温暖。心酸是因为作为子女，感觉到对父母的关爱缺失，温暖是庆幸她们老了还有一群姐妹彼此陪伴”。“比起那些还处在懵懂状态里的少女们，她们更懂得友情、亲情的珍贵，也更明白身为女性所具有的权利和义务，不去指责他人的人生选择，更多的是理解和陪伴。”

　　还有观众拿《欢乐颂》里的闺蜜情谊来做对比，“不论是《亲爱的她们》中的邱雅，是《小时代》中的顾里、《欢乐颂》中的安迪，她们总是在别人出现困难、惊慌失措时，表现出睿智和冷静，果断和坚定。我渴望现实中有这样的闺蜜”。

　　父母有爱情，他们的内心依然年轻

　　《亲爱的她们》将被青年人忽略的父母的生活状态搬到银幕前，展现他们看似无聊且繁琐的世界，在这些小事中却勾勒出一群洋溢着朝气、充满生命力的、始终保持倔强乐观的老年人的精神面貌。

　　秦汉在《亲爱的她们》中饰演一位浪漫的台湾大叔，追求一份“未了情”，浪漫绅士的人设十分讨喜。在接受记者采访时，秦汉表示，年长者的内心依然年轻，“我不想把这种年长者角色演得暮气沉沉，好像日落黄昏的感觉，很没劲。其实，皱纹多了、头发白了，但内心不见得会有太大的改变。”宋丹丹也认为：“别怕自己老了，拍出1不好看，我们昨天当然比今天好看，明天一定比后天好看。所以我们今天最好看！谁也阻挡不了岁月，我们会有尊严地幸福地走下去。”对此，观众表示：“她们的生活让人感动。变老既然是无法逃避的客观事实，不如找到自己存在的意义，每个年龄段都有他独属的美好，享受活在当下的每一刻，反而会重返17岁，闪耀年轻的光芒。”

　　说起父母爱情，《我的前半生》里薛甄珠和崔宝剑这一对也让观众念念不忘。薛甄珠给女儿打电话说：“不是只有年轻人才知道罗密欧与朱丽叶，我们年龄大的人，碰上一个真心相爱的人很不容易。”其中的心酸和无奈，让身为子女的观众表示确实要换位思考。

　　爱的妥协，祝福孩子的选择

　　许多苦情剧一定有个恶婆婆或者顽固不化的妈妈，但生活里的大多家长最后都会慢慢支持孩子的选择，这是爱的妥协。《亲爱的她们》里宋丹丹即便一万个不喜欢恐婚的张若昀，但也会说最大的目的是希望自己的孩子按照自己的心意过人生，“这种成全是一种很难用文字来表达的包容，是完全牺牲自己的祝福”。《我的前半生》中薛甄珠去恳求唐晶“让出爱情”给子君，虽然可笑，但其中确实蕴含着对孩子浓浓的爱。“为了挽回女儿婚姻，她做一大桌子菜，求出轨的女婿回来吃，打感情牌，涕泪俱下。此时，薛甄珠是个最真实的妈妈。女儿是她唯一的铠甲，唯一的软肋。”

　　对此，有观众感慨：“不管女儿多大，母亲还是把她当成小女孩。而女儿在母亲面前总会叛逆。试想，在我们不懂事的时候，又有谁没说过几句伤害父母的话呢？马卫华和顾嘉一这一对母女，互相嫌弃又互相深爱，可能这就是大部分家庭最相似的母女关系吧。”“马卫华虽然对年近30的女儿还是在强烈地控制，对她的爱情、婚姻都事无巨细地干涉，但说到底她只是想女儿幸福，只要女儿快乐，母亲绝对尊重女儿的意见。”还有观众认为，看了这些电视剧后特别想拥抱自己的父母，“为人父母之后才能明白那种爱”。顾嘉一的扮演者姜妍最深的感触也是珍惜，“希望在父母健在的时候多陪伴他们”。策划：苏蕾 记者 莫斯其格

来源：广州日报

　　《亲爱的她们》聚焦都市老年人生活。

                                         "Dear them": "the post youth" can also live well

Recently, the convergence of the Song Dandan, Liu Lili, Athena Chu, Qin and Han Dynasties, a bunch of old play bone Hunan TV hit drama "dear" they topped the ratings list, the series revolves around a group of urban elderly people about their "bits and pieces" of life. However, unlike ordinary dramas, "dear ones" shows a new concept of communication and life: no one can stop the years, but in this post youth era, "we will go happily and happily."

Middle age crisis? There may be a need for such a boudoir

Recently, there are such topics on the Internet: after 90, they feel old and middle-aged girls become hot words. Men and women talk about greasy color. In these Internet topics, the fear of "aging" and the resistance to the middle age crisis are hidden. As a matter of fact, "old" is not scary in the imagination. In "Dear them", the middle aged parents convey a new concept of life with modern, fashionable and lively expressions.

"Dear them", Ma Weihua (Song Dandan), Yan Shunhua (Zhu Yinshi), Shi Huizhen (Liu Lili ornament)... They face the inevitable problem of all old people: the gradual aging of physical function. Physical strength is not enough, slow reaction, the ability to deal with the problem is getting worse. At this time, the friendship between women is a weapon to resolve their middle age crisis and resolve their conflict with their children. They grew up together, accompanied by a bestie are rare, high sweet friendship does not lose love: "even if we don't live together, but we will not reduce the mutual affection between A. My phone call for you 24 hours, want to find me, I am at any time. "

The audience that now the network frequently talked about the "plastic sisterhood", in fact we bestie your heart's desire, it is Wei Hua, Hua Shun their feelings, "bestie should withstand years of baptism, half past the test of conflicting interests, this feeling is too precious. It was as if Wei Hua went to meet Shun Hua and said, 'we and she are more pro - kissed than her son'. It always feels a bit heartache and warm to see such a picture. Heart sour is because as a child, feel the lack of care for the parents, the warmth is the joy that they are old and a group of sisters to accompany each other. "Compared with those girls who are still in a state of ignorance, they are more aware of the value of friendship and family, and understand the rights and obligations of women. They do not blame others for their life choices, they are more understanding and companionship.

And the audience take "Ode to joy" in friendship bestie to do comparison, "whether they" in "dear Qiu Ya, is" time "in Gu," Ode to joy "in Andy, they always have difficulty in others, confound, show wisdom and calm, resolute and steadfast. I want to have such a boudoir in reality.

Parents have love, and their hearts are still young

"Dear" they will be young people ignore the parents living conditions to the screen before the show they seem boring and tedious in the world, these things have a outline of vigorous and vibrant, always keep the elderly stubborn optimistic spirit.

Qin and Han Dynasty in the "dear" they played a Taiwan uncle romantic, the pursuit of a "ghost", romantic gentleman men very lovable. In an interview with reporters, Qin said, older people's heart is still young, "I don't want to take this senior role as the sunset apathetic, feeling very boring. In fact, there are many wrinkles and white hair, but they don't have to change too much in their hearts. " Song Dandan also said: "do not be afraid of the old, taking pictures not good, we were of course better yesterday than today, tomorrow must be better than the next day. So we'd better see it today! No one can stop the years, and we will walk with dignity and happiness. " To this, the audience said: "their lives are moving. Since aging is an objective fact that cannot be evade, it is better to find the meaning of existence. Every age has its own beauty. Enjoying every moment in the present moment, it will return to 17 years old and shine the youthful glow.

Speaking of parents' love, Xue Zhen and Cui Baojian in the first half of my life also let the audience remember. Xue Zhenzhu called her daughter and said, "not only young people know that Romeo and Juliet, our older people, are really hard to meet a real love person." The heartache and the helplessness of it, let the audience as the children really want to change their thinking.

The compromise of love and the choice of children

Many tragedies must have a stubborn mother or mother-in-law, but in life most of the parents finally will slowly support the child's choice, this is the love of compromise. "Dear Song Dandan" in ten thousand even if they do not love the fear of marriage of Zhang Ruoyun, but also said that the biggest goal is to hope that their children to his own life, "this is a very difficult to be expressed with words of tolerance, is completely sacrifice their blessings". In the first half of my life, Xue Zhenzhu went to plead with Tang Jing to "give out love" to Zi Jun, although it was ridiculous, but it did contain a strong love for the children. "In order to save her marriage, she made a table of dishes, and derailed the son-in-law to come back to eat, play the emotional card, Tilei all. At this point, Xue Zhenzhu was the most true mother.